Abortions, Babies and Change.

I don't know why but I feel like I should talk about babies, families and abortion. I know it may be weird but I have this strong feeling to share my thoughts.



It all started when I saw a status from A. Park who is the girlfriend of my cousin. I'm not going to post what she said exactly but basically what she expressed was that he didn't keep his word and how he shouldn't get mad at her for not trusting him and his word when he left her with empty promises and hope when he doesn't do the things in on his end. She also expressed that he basically lost his soon-to-be family. And it seems like he ended up partying at Beyond instead of being home with her, comforting her and showing her love. I mean, seriously? C'mon, she's fucking 20 weeks and 5 days pregnant!

Honestly, I kind of expected it to happen. Not because I don't believe in their relationship but because he is only 22 (turning 23 this year) and he hasn't done much in his life, he likes the freedom and it "runs in the family". (his Father's side, it's their hobby to do these things and most guys do it so it's expected) so when I found out that she was pregnant, I was excited because I believe they could make a cute family but I knew they were too young for it.

A. Park is a beautiful young lady and I know she's going to be a great mother regardless if my cousin decides to stay or not.

But it pains me in many ways to see things like this happen even though it happens more often than I know because people are bringing children into the world faster than before and I believe that every child deserves two nuturing parents. No mother deserves to raise a child on her own. No father should raise a family on his own. No child deserves to have only one parent. I know some can get through it and still live a good life but majority of them don't.

So I started thinking about abortion because I've seen a lot of people post on Facebook political camphaigns and such and I remember abortion being one of the topics that gets people raging. And I'm not saying that A. Park should get an abortion but it just came to mind...

I always saw pictures of people holding signs about how abortion is murder, a sin and those who do it will be sent to Hell. But imagine on a worldwide scale, in a single year, 42 million abortions are performed. If I remember correctly, in the United States, one baby is aborted every 24 seconds, 147 babies are aborted every hour, 3,542 babies are aborted every day, 24,865 babies are aborted every week, and 107,750 babies are aborted every month. So that's 1,293,000 babies a year and it's constantly growing as I type this out... Imagine all those babies in the US alone. Who will take care of them?

If you outlaw abortions, who is going to take care of those fetuses that will become babies that will grow up into future civilians of the US? They would need care too.

People who want to have children, who are ready to have children, who have the finances to care for the children have made a conscious decision to have them and don't get abortions. So who has them? Women who didn't intend to have it in the first place, "bad timing", broken condoms or not on birth control, "heat of the moment" mistakes or they were victims of rape. Or in some cases, those women whose health is at risk and have no other choice. Or, better yet... Young children. 12~14 year olds who get into these sexual activities and have no instruction for these things or are even educated enough for the consequences of sex. There are a lot of females out there who can't afford a child, who don't want a child, who can't care for a child, some with no support at all and some are left with partners who aren't going to help them care for the child that they've clearly brought into the world.

What happens when these children when they are brought into the world to parents who didn't want them? They are stuck with parents who can't care for them physically, emotionally and/or finanacially. What happens to those innocent children who are abused, neglected, raised in poverty and are hated by their parents who didn't want them in the first place but are FORCED to go on with the pregnancy that she was clearly not ready for?

What I want to know is to those who are waving those signs, calling everyone a sinner who aborts their unborn child and says that it's in the Bible and that God will hate them forever, what I want to know is: Are you, as the protestor, going to take care of those children? Feed them? Clothe them? Nurture them? Prepare them for the world? Put them to school? Make sure that they are covered for their vaccinations? Will you rush them to a hospital when they're sick or injured?

Who is going to take care of them? Because I'm sure that the women (and men) who protest out in public for hours on end aren't going to even do a single damn thing for EVERY child. Why would they fight to the death for their right to tell a woman, or a child who has no business having a child, that they MUST have a baby they don't want? It just doesn't make sense.

Most likely these are the same people who think that sex education shouldn't be taught in school and these are probably the same people who think that using a condom or birth controls are the work of the devil and think that teaching "abstinence" to teenagers will surely keep them from having sex.

It pisses me off that these people want it their way when what they don't understand is that the refusal to educate about sexual responsibility is partially responsible for that statistic that they are fighting for. And what they don't see or want to acknowledge is that keeping 24,865 women a week who seek an abortion is 24,865 babies born into this world that will most likely end up in a single-parent home, in foster care or in a shelter, or somewhere that only God will know and they won't be taken care of. Will the protester's still care? Where will those "mothers" be? It's like forcing a child to have a child. Imagine a 12-year-old girl forced to be a mother. Who will take care of the 'mother'? Will you help her continue to go to school so she can graduate from high school, get a degree and a job so she can finally take care of her child the proper way? Will you feed, clothe and house her child while she does that for herself? Will these protesters really care for the fetuses once they are born?

Of course not.

I honestly believe that people just need to let go of the idea that birth controls are wrong, using a condom is the work of the devil and that abortions are for sinners. It doesn't make sense when we have birth control pills but we can't have insurance covered for it and are taunted for using it because we have an image of being a "slut" when we're on it and we can't use a condom because it's "a tool of Satan" and if we were to abort an unborn, we are murders when most of us do it with good intentions. I believe that people who get abortions are doing some good because they KNOW that they can't take the responsibility of the child and KNOW that they can't care for it. To me, that shows that these people acknowledge their place and are aware that they are "unsuitable parents" and aren't ready for parenthood.

For those who are religious, I feel like it's too much when they go out, protest and call people names when in the Bible it says that we should love our neighbors the way we love ourselves. (Mark 12:31; Leviticus 19:18; Matthew 22:39) and I believe if you think someone around you or in your community is doing wrong, you have to HELP them. Not judge them, taunt them and point fingers telling them that they're wrong. You can still change the ways of the world without being anal about it. I don't know the Bible completely but I believe, in a religious sense, that God tests our humanity. And this is a test. He's testing how we'll react and as far as I know, we're failing miserably.

Now, what I think we should all do is, we need to start from the beginning and that means educate the younger children about proper precautions about sex and the consequences since now, we are flooded by "harmful" media that they can clearly obtain or witness. So you need to start around them and help them adjust as fast as world is changing. That's the most important skill we all need, we need to learn how to adjust and constantly improve on the NOW. What can you do NOW. Not judge those who try and do good, not point fingers and say that so-and-so is a murder, a sinner or a harlot.

What can YOU do NOW?